Conflict

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When I was younger I enjoyed conflict. It meant that I was letting things be known and getting things done. These days I just want peace. Gone are the days of spending two hours trying to convince B that I am “right.” Gone is the time spent crafting a great argument. I would much rather spend time meditating and sitting quietly than fighting.

Yet, there is something to be said about the positive effects of conflict. During conflict we are often forced to grow, to dig deep within ourselves to find the answers that are needed, and do a bit more in an effort to resolve the issues that are at the root of the problem. Oftentimes, conflict brings us some much needed insight about ourselves and our loved ones that can then be used to find solutions that best fit our mutual needs. Usually conflict forces us to do a bit more thinking, to take action, and encourages us to analyze patterns that are dug up when our nest is disturbed.

Conflict is hard, especially when we as a species, tend to want to chase rainbows and live our lives surrounded by sunny skies. Many of us avoid conflict like the plague. But conflict if managed with mutual respect and sharply attuned listening skills can unearth gems that can change our lives or our thought patterns. So while I am not encouraging anyone to go out and start a fight with their loved one; I am saying that the next time you are in conflict with your loved one try to look for the treasures that conflict can bring. You may find exactly what your relationship needs in order to take that next step by digging deep and listening carefully and in doing so; you might just find the peace that you have been searching for.

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7 thoughts on “Conflict

  1. I read this and it saddens me. Part of your fire was being capable as partners to have separate opinions and educate each other on perspective and figure out how and who is ‘right’ and it mattered because you respected and loved one another. The desire for peace I think comes from… The fight not being worth it?

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    • Interesting perspective. I will think on that. I will also say that I am looking for peace for my own health and peace of mine. I have fought all my life…MIL, for our boys, in the courts and I am really just tired of it. I see some positives that have resulted from this but if you balance it all I have spent way too much time fighting and being angry and that has done me little good.

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